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OMG. This is really upsetting..but youare doing th...

2008-08-08T08:54:00.000+05:30

OMG. This is really upsetting..but youare doing the right thing by NOT sweeping this under the carpet.

And you have the right mentality, no one can save him,,,he has to have enough and hit his own rock bottom before he will ever change....

but I cant imagine how painful this must be to watch.

HUGS

Sometimes the pain and suffering of those surround...

2008-08-08T02:55:00.000+05:30

Sometimes the pain and suffering of those surrounded by the addict are so much more difficult to bear. I am so sorry to hear of this but I am SO glad you're not hiding the white elephant. Blogging is so therapeutic ... keep us posted, so long as it helps you.

Richard:

There is a history of alcoholism o...

2008-08-08T02:03:00.000+05:30

Richard:

There is a history of alcoholism on my mother’s side of the family, though she does not drink; neither does my father. My brother has never been married and he has no children. He will be 45 in October.

He’s always had a variety of activities he liked to do and friends to do them with. He’s gone on several ski trips, including to Austria. He likes to fish. In addition to frequenting lakes in our area, he has also gone out of town with friends to fish. He was a health nut, watching what he ate and always trying to keep physically fit.

Years ago he used to race motocross. He made it to the finals for his class and was set to race in the nationals in Tennessee. About a month before the event he had a crash during a race and snapped his leg in two. He had surgery as I was giving birth to my daughter. That was on June 28th, 1982; twenty six years ago. I know he's always thought how things may have been different if that hadn't happened. That is the only reason I can think of…except he didn’t start drinking then. It’s been in the last ten or so years.

For some reason my comment didn't post. I was won...

2008-08-08T01:33:00.000+05:30

For some reason my comment didn't post. I was wondering if you really have no idea why this is happening. I mean, you must have some thoughts here. Is he married? Does he have children? Is loneliness a factor?

Personally, I've never dealt with a loved one suff...

2008-08-07T08:09:00.000+05:30

Personally, I've never dealt with a loved one suffering from alcoholism. I've watched the TV show "Intervention" a few times and when they profile alcoholics, the families (well, any drug, really) suffer so very much. I'm so sorry you're living through this. I hope he makes the decision to get help because, you're right, rehab is useless unless they decide to initiate the treatment.

Hugs, hon. Lots of hugs.

I am very sorry that your mom is in the hospital. ...

2008-08-07T06:46:00.000+05:30

I am very sorry that your mom is in the hospital. Is everything going to be ok?

I am also sorry that your brother is losing his battle, but hopefully that will change because of the amazing support his family is prepared to give him.

Hang in there.

Oh, Linda, I am so sorry to hear this. My sister i...

2008-08-07T05:12:00.000+05:30

Oh, Linda, I am so sorry to hear this. My sister is a recovering alcoholic but unfortunately, now that she doesn't drink she collects unsuitable men instead. I know how stressful this can be. And frustrating. Sometimes you feel like screaming. I hope your Mom is OK. I'll be praying for you all.

Thank you for your kind words of support and praye...

2008-08-07T02:12:00.000+05:30

Thank you for your kind words of support and prayers.

I am sooooo sorry you and your family are having t...

2008-08-06T23:19:00.000+05:30

I am sooooo sorry you and your family are having to go through this. Alcohol is horrible...I will be saying a prayer...especially for your mother. I hope she gets better and please let us know if we can do anything. We're all friends here!!!

Hugz,
Michele

Alcoholism runs in my family, and all but killed m...

2008-08-06T22:06:00.000+05:30

Alcoholism runs in my family, and all but killed most of them who had it before they sought help and recovered from it.

I hope your brother gets the help he needs.

Oh I am so sorry. Maybe he will hit bottom soon a...

2008-08-06T20:24:00.000+05:30

Oh I am so sorry. Maybe he will hit bottom soon and get the help he needs. In the meantime, all the best to your mother...I am sending good thoughts your way.

Alcoholism is such a beast and so devastating to t...

2008-08-06T20:17:00.000+05:30

Alcoholism is such a beast and so devastating to those around. I'll pray for your brother. That's probably the only thing that will bring him healing.

I have one of those brothers, so I am really sorry...

2008-08-06T19:15:00.000+05:30

I have one of those brothers, so I am really sorry you are going through this, and your parents. My dad was a drunk my whole life growing up, and only stopped when he actually thought he was going to die. That stopped him for a few years, but now he is back at drinking, just not nearly as much. It's hard to just stand by and watch someone destroy themselves like that, and there's not much you can do to help.

It is devestating the effect that alcohol has on s...

2008-08-06T18:25:00.000+05:30

It is devestating the effect that alcohol has on some people. I am that one of those people happen to be your brother. I will lift up a prayer for your family, especially your parents, right now and I hope things will work themselves out soon. In the mean time, keep your head up and keep being strong - I know your parents must be very proud of who you are.

Why is your mom in the hospital????? I'll call you...

2008-08-06T17:20:00.000+05:30

Why is your mom in the hospital????? I'll call you later after work. In the meantime, hug my auntie for me! HUGS!!!!!!